Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness Workshop in Boston!

Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness Workshop in Boston!

FINALLY! For the first time, Lauren Mackler will offer her Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life workshop intensive in the Boston area, at Roots & Wings Healing Center in Natick, MA!

January 18, 2020, 9am-6pm

For people who are single, divorced, or seeking greater independence within their partnership. 

Are you ready to gain mastery over your own life? Many people spend years waiting for a soul mate to make them feel complete. Others settle for unfulfilling relationships out of fear of being alone. Instead of depending on someone else to make you whole, take a life-changing journey to greater self-mastery, empowerment, and well-being—whether you’re living on your own or you’re in a relationship.

Upcoming Events

Upcoming Events

Living Fearlessly 10/17/19 – 6:30pm-8pm

What would you do if you were fearless? Fear is one of biggest barriers to creating a life aligned with who you really are and the vision to which you aspire. Lauren Mackler, a world-renowned coach and psychotherapist, CNN commentator, and best-selling author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life, will help you uncover the roots of the fears that keep you stuck and offer practical tools for overriding fear and making your dreams and goals a reality.

No is the New Yes

No is the New Yes

Do you avoid expressing yourself from fear of disapproval, rejection, or conflict? If so, you’re not alone. 

In my Illumineering Coaching practice, I work with high-functioning, successful people doing interesting things in the world. And yet, the majority of them were conditioned to believe that saying no, setting boundaries, or sharing real feelings and needs will threaten or even extinguish relationships. 

More often than not, the opposite is true. When we say no, set boundaries regarding things that don’t work for us, and authentically express what we need or feel, we’re actually taking action to strengthen and preserve our relationships. Why? Because when we withhold our truths or agree to something we don’t want to do, it’s a form of self-betrayal that ultimately leads to negative outcomes. These can include resentment toward others, judgment or anger imposed upon ourselves, or passive aggressive behaviors like avoidance or sarcasm.    

Recipe for Optimal Living

Recipe for Optimal Living

The Transformative Power of Pets

Pets can have an enormous impact on how we feel and how we live. They can improve our emotional and mental well-being, reduce anxiety levels, fight depression, and even enhance our physical health. My own dog, a sweet little Bichon, has brought tremendous joy to my own life, and she is a shining example of what it means to love unconditionally. As a busy professional, I always have a lot on my plate. My dog helps to keep me balanced and stay connected to the spontaneous, playful part of me.

New SOLEMATE Audiobook!

New SOLEMATE Audiobook!

This international bestseller is now an audiobook! Lauren Mackler’s road map for gaining mastery of your own life, and greater wholeness and joy on your own or in relationship. Instead of expecting someone else to complete you, become your own cherished solemate. Using information, quizzes, and real-life examples, this print and audio book help you override limiting patterns, and live more fully as the person you were born to be.


Decision-Making: Emotion Versus Intuition

Decision-Making: Emotion Versus Intuition

It’s been a while since my last newsletter. I’ve been especially busy the past few months, due to a sudden and unexpected move into a new home, a new office, and a brand-new town!

Making decisions regarding major life changes—especially those initiated by others—can be daunting. When I found out last winter that I had to move due to changes in my building, my first reaction was resistance. With 34 moves under my belt, yet another one was unappealing, to say the least. My next feeling was dread followed by overwhelm. I loved where I lived and my beautiful home office. Where and how would I find another place as nice? 

Lauren Recommends

Lauren Recommends

BROKEN OPEN: Embracing Heartache & Betrayal as Gateways to Unconditional Love

Broken Open by my friend Mal Duane is about finding wholeness, forgiveness, and unconditional love for yourself and others after experiencing the deep wounds of betrayal. The book includes the powerful self-inquiry questions and spiritual practices that helped Mal heal her own broken heart, and shares her life story with authenticity courage, and vulnerability. A powerful and inspiring book for anyone who has experienced a broken heart.

Upcoming Events

Upcoming Events

Transforming Toxic Emotions

9/28/19, 10am-11:30am - Are you often run by your feelings? In this powerful event, you'll learn about the origins of chronic, toxic emotions, and practical tools to stop their diminishing effect on your life. Whether your emotional “addiction” is to anger, depression, fear, insecurity, or some other emotional pattern, renowned coach and bestselling author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life, Lauren Mackler, will help you better understand the chronic emotions limiting your life, and how to transform them to ones that create a more joyful inner and outer environment. In Cambridge, MA.

Upcoming Events

Upcoming Events

Talking Smart: Keys to Clear and Compelling Communication

2/28/19, 6:30pm-8pm - Many of us struggle with communicating effectively with others—personally and professionally—because we never learned how. In this powerful evening, learn how to build rapport, gain mastery of your emotions, and be a clear and compelling communicator. Discover how to interact with others in ways that strengthen your relationships, invoke respect, defuse conflict, and produce the outcomes you want in your personal life and at work. In Arlington, MA.

Interview: RealSimple Magazine

Interview: RealSimple Magazine

How to Find More Time Alone—Without Feeling Lonely

If you’re one of the rare people who like spending time by themselves, enjoy this article as validation of your natural instincts. If, on the other hand, you’re among those who would rather endure physical pain than spend time alone with your thoughts (true story: in a 2014 study published in Science, many of the participants preferred to give themselves electric shocks rather than spend 6 to 15 minutes by themselves with nothing to do), we’d like to change your mind about solitude.

Recipe for Optimal Living

Recipe for Optimal Living

The Benefits of a Daily Smoothie

For many people, consuming enough of the daily recommendations of fruits and vegetables can be a challenge. Blending some servings of each into a smoothie can help you meet your body’s daily nutritional needs. Making a nutrient-rich smoothie is easier than preparing most meals, so it will not only support your health, but it can also add precious time to your day. To make a fiber-rich smoothie you’ll need a high-performance blender (I use a Vitamix), since a regular household blender doesn’t puree fruits and vegetables sufficiently. The recipe below is one that I have for my lunch every day. Feel free to improvise, based on your preferences and needs.

Living Deliberately Versus by Default

Living Deliberately Versus by Default

The law of cause and effect is one of life’s great truisms. When applied to human behavior, it means that through our actions, we generate outcomes. Yet, most people behave as if cause and effect didn’t exist. They live on autopilot, reacting to events without considering the results of their actions or the role they’ve played in creating their lives.

Recipe for Optimal Living

Recipe for Optimal Living

Yoga for Greater Health and Wellness

Yoga is the ancient practice of physical poses meant to unite the mind, body, and spirit. Along with this powerful union come endless physical and psychological benefits. Yoga exercises have been proven to strengthen and tone muscles, as well as promote circulatory health. Mentally, yoga puts the mind in a state of relaxation and can even encourage positive thoughts and self-acceptance. Studies show that just thirty minutes of yoga, five times a week can improve energy level, concentration, memory, and overall mood.

Addicted to Negative Thinking?

Addicted to Negative Thinking?

Chronic negative thinking and the emotions it invokes is, like many destructive behaviors, a form of addiction.

An old acquaintance of mine recently wrote an article about positive thinking—a subject that is often misunderstood. For many years I, like many people on the personal-development path, believed that by writing down and repeating positive affirmations (positive statements about yourself or your life, written in the present tense as if they were already true), I would think more positively and the changes I sought in myself and in my life would happen automatically. I hung these inspiring statements up all over my house, memorized them, and repeated them out loud, sometimes as much as 100 times a day. But it seemed that no matter how many times I said them, the changes I hoped to achieve continued to elude me.

Upcoming Events

Upcoming Events

The Work You’re Born to Do – 3/10/18 (Cambridge, MA) and 4/26/18 (Arlington, MA): Do you long for a more fulfilling career but don’t know what it is? Or perhaps you know your dream, but don’t know where to begin toward achieving it. Many people end up in dissatisfying jobs because they never learned how to identify the “work they were born to do”—work that leverages their innate skills, strengths and passions, and brings a sense of purpose to their lives. 

Recipe for Optimal Living

Recipe for Optimal Living

Eat a Healthy Breakfast
Your mother was right—breakfast is the most important meal of the day! Eating breakfast jump-starts your metabolism and boosts your concentration, energy, and productivity levels. Be sure that what you eat has good nutritional value. Protein and fiber are vital in your daily diet; they keep you fuller longer and help your body burn fat calories.

Upcoming Events

Upcoming Events

The Art of Self-Compassion - 1/18/18 (Newton, MA) and 1/27/18 (Cambridge, MA) - Many people treat themselves in ways that undermine their emotional and physical health, their relationships, and the results they’re trying to achieve in their personal and professional lives. In this powerful interactive presentation, world-renowned coach, psychotherapist, CNN commentator, and bestselling author of “Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life”, Lauren Mackler, unearths the origins of self-defeating habits, and offers practical ways to cultivate greater compassion and self-nurturance as a new way of being in your daily life. You will learn essential tools for reclaiming your innate self-esteem and confidence, and appreciation for the unique human being that you are.

Should You Stay or Should You Go?

Should You Stay or Should You Go?

This month’s newsletter article features a recent interview Lauren had with Reader’s Digest about how to determine whether to continue or end a relationship, partnership, or marriage.   

RD) How do you know if you should break up with someone? Are there questions you can ask yourself? Or a checklist?

LM) Knowing if and when to end a relationship can be difficult. It’s even more challenging when there are additional factors such as children, a co-owned property or business, and/or comingled finances.