Give the Gift of Growth for the Holidays!

Give the Gift of Growth for the Holidays!

If someone you love is going through a life transition, having relationship issues, seeking a career change, or wanting to further develop themselves personally or professionally, give them the gift of growth with an Illumineering Coaching Gift Certificate! 

ABOUT ILLUMINEERING COACHING 

When we're born, we are whole human beings with tremendous potential. Growing up, we respond to our conditioning by adopting thought and behavior patterns, some of which limit our potential. These patterns follow us into adulthood, and create our stories about ourselves, relationships, personal lives, and careers. Illumineering is a groundbreaking integration of psychology and coaching to help you create a new story—to liberate your potential and achieve the results you want.  

Solemate Workshop in Boston!

Solemate Workshop in Boston!

SOLEMATE: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life

Saturday 3/28/20 - 9:00am-6:00pm

Day-long Workshop Intensive with Lauren Mackler

For people who are single, widowed, divorced, or seeking greater independence and wholeness within their partnership. 

Are you ready to gain mastery over your own life? Many people spend years waiting for a soul mate to make them feel complete. Others settle for unfulfilling relationships out of fear of being alone. Instead of depending on someone else to make you whole, take a life-changing journey to greater self-mastery, empowerment, and well-being—on your own or in a relationship.

Using experiential exercises, visualizations, journaling, and group processes, this groundbreaking experience with renowned Illumineering Coach, psychotherapist, and bestselling author Lauren Mackler inspires you to become the partner you seek.

Surviving Family Stress Over the Holidays

Surviving Family Stress Over the Holidays

Out of all the relationships we have in our lives, the ones we share with family members can be the most challenging. And there's nothing like holiday stress to trigger the old wounds and unresolved issues that plague so many families.

Sharing close, loving, and supportive relationships is a basic human need, yet many of our family relationships fall short of this ideal. Most families have some level of dysfunction, with each member playing his or her part. Becoming aware of your own family dynamics—and consciously changing behavior patterns that create conflict—will help you avoid the interpersonal "land mines" that are often triggered in the midst of holiday stress. Below are some practical tips to help you make the holidays a time of joyful celebration, instead of fodder for unpleasant family feuds.

Recipe for Optimal Living

Recipe for Optimal Living

Volunteer!

By helping others you help yourself. Volunteering is a great way to be active, socialize, and build confidence. A report by Volunteer Match and United Healthcare showed that 73% of volunteers reported reduced stress levels, 89% said it improved their well-being, and 92% experienced a greater sense of purpose. Serving others boosts your self-esteem and fosters a positive attitude in other areas of your life. People who volunteer regularly have a lower mortality rate and it’s been shown to lessen symptoms of chronic pain and heart disease. There are hundreds of organizations looking for volunteers, especially during the holidays. Your help can really make a difference to them and to you.

Solemate Workshop in Boston!

Solemate Workshop in Boston!

FINALLY! For the first time, Lauren Mackler will offer her Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life workshop intensive in the Boston area, at Roots & Wings Healing Center in Natick, MA!

March 28, 2020, 9am-6pm (please note new date)

For people who are single, divorced, or seeking greater independence within their partnership. 

Are you ready to gain mastery over your own life? Many people spend years waiting for a soul mate to make them feel complete. Others settle for unfulfilling relationships out of fear of being alone. Instead of depending on someone else to make you whole, take a life-changing journey to greater self-mastery, empowerment, and well-being—whether you’re living on your own or you’re in a relationship.

Recipe for Optimal Living

Recipe for Optimal Living

Develop Your Inner Nurturing Parent

If you think about it, you may discover that you don’t treat yourself very well. You may break promises to yourself, eat poorly, or engage in unsupportive relationships. In fact, if most people treated others the way they treat themselves, they wouldn’t have too many friends! To begin treating yourself better, here is a tool I write about in Solemate: your “Inner Nurturing Parent.” Instead of judging yourself, send loving messages to yourself like, “I love and appreciate who you are.” When you do something well, pat yourself on the back and say out loud, “Great job! I’m so proud of you.” Get in the habit of doing nice things for yourself. Make a cup of tea with the nurturing energy you’d have when preparing tea for someone you love. Make your bed for yourself every day.

Lauren Recommends

Lauren Recommends

Hands to Heart: Breathe and Bend with Animal Friends

Written by Alexandra Bauermeister; Illustrated by Flora Waycott

I am thrilled to share with you this beautiful yoga and mindfulness book (written by my yoga therapist daughter) that encourages young readers to breathe, slow down, and move into gentle, playful poses as they ease into a practice of meditation. With a gentle reminder for children to breathe and connect to their bodies, the book contains a sweet cast of animal friends to guide young readers from one yoga pose to the next. From reaching your hands up to the sky to stretching like a cat to pressing up like a cobra snake, each posture helps to control breathing, engage in the present moment, and lead towards greater calmness and peacefulness. The soothing, rhythmic text paired with playful illustrations make this book perfect for young readers ready to interact with yoga poses and practice mindfulness.

New Solemate Audiobook!

New Solemate Audiobook!

SOLEMATE: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life

NEW AUDIO BOOK!

This international bestseller, now available as an audiobook, is about mastering aloneness but it’s not about being alone. It's a practical roadmap for achieving mastery of your life so you can have greater wholeness and joy on your own or in a relationship. Based on Lauren’s Mastering the Art of Aloneness workshop, Solemate provides life-changing tools to create and live a fulfilling, successful, and financially secure life with or without a partner.

Manage Anger So It Doesn't Manage You

Manage Anger So It Doesn't Manage You

Anger is a normal and very human emotion. But few people have been taught how to effectively express and manage anger. Instead, we learn how to deal with anger by our parents’ role modeling, and by how our parents reacted to our own anger growing up. We may have been taught to rationalize our anger away, blame or verbally attack the person who “made us” angry, or withdraw and avoid the other person—and our anger—altogether. 

In a healthy family, the parents accept anger as a normal emotion that needs to be discharged. But in a family where anger is taboo, those feelings can’t be expressed. If someone grows up in that type of family, they may develop a habit of internalizing their anger. Or they may react by outwardly expressing it in destructive ways—maybe through an explosive temper or through passive-aggressive behavior in which they express anger by being critical, sarcastic, judgmental, or oppositional.

Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness Workshop in Boston!

Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness Workshop in Boston!

FINALLY! For the first time, Lauren Mackler will offer her Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life workshop intensive in the Boston area, at Roots & Wings Healing Center in Natick, MA!

March 28, 2020, 9am-6pm

For people who are single, divorced, or seeking greater independence within their partnership. 

Are you ready to gain mastery over your own life? Many people spend years waiting for a soul mate to make them feel complete. Others settle for unfulfilling relationships out of fear of being alone. Instead of depending on someone else to make you whole, take a life-changing journey to greater self-mastery, empowerment, and well-being—whether you’re living on your own or you’re in a relationship.

Upcoming Events

Upcoming Events

Living Fearlessly 10/17/19 – 6:30pm-8pm

What would you do if you were fearless? Fear is one of biggest barriers to creating a life aligned with who you really are and the vision to which you aspire. Lauren Mackler, a world-renowned coach and psychotherapist, CNN commentator, and best-selling author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life, will help you uncover the roots of the fears that keep you stuck and offer practical tools for overriding fear and making your dreams and goals a reality.

No is the New Yes

No is the New Yes

Do you avoid expressing yourself from fear of disapproval, rejection, or conflict? If so, you’re not alone. 

In my Illumineering Coaching practice, I work with high-functioning, successful people doing interesting things in the world. And yet, the majority of them were conditioned to believe that saying no, setting boundaries, or sharing real feelings and needs will threaten or even extinguish relationships. 

More often than not, the opposite is true. When we say no, set boundaries regarding things that don’t work for us, and authentically express what we need or feel, we’re actually taking action to strengthen and preserve our relationships. Why? Because when we withhold our truths or agree to something we don’t want to do, it’s a form of self-betrayal that ultimately leads to negative outcomes. These can include resentment toward others, judgment or anger imposed upon ourselves, or passive aggressive behaviors like avoidance or sarcasm.    

Recipe for Optimal Living

Recipe for Optimal Living

The Transformative Power of Pets

Pets can have an enormous impact on how we feel and how we live. They can improve our emotional and mental well-being, reduce anxiety levels, fight depression, and even enhance our physical health. My own dog, a sweet little Bichon, has brought tremendous joy to my own life, and she is a shining example of what it means to love unconditionally. As a busy professional, I always have a lot on my plate. My dog helps to keep me balanced and stay connected to the spontaneous, playful part of me.

New SOLEMATE Audiobook!

New SOLEMATE Audiobook!

This international bestseller is now an audiobook! Lauren Mackler’s road map for gaining mastery of your own life, and greater wholeness and joy on your own or in relationship. Instead of expecting someone else to complete you, become your own cherished solemate. Using information, quizzes, and real-life examples, this print and audio book help you override limiting patterns, and live more fully as the person you were born to be.


Decision-Making: Emotion Versus Intuition

Decision-Making: Emotion Versus Intuition

It’s been a while since my last newsletter. I’ve been especially busy the past few months, due to a sudden and unexpected move into a new home, a new office, and a brand-new town!

Making decisions regarding major life changes—especially those initiated by others—can be daunting. When I found out last winter that I had to move due to changes in my building, my first reaction was resistance. With 34 moves under my belt, yet another one was unappealing, to say the least. My next feeling was dread followed by overwhelm. I loved where I lived and my beautiful home office. Where and how would I find another place as nice? 

Lauren Recommends

Lauren Recommends

BROKEN OPEN: Embracing Heartache & Betrayal as Gateways to Unconditional Love

Broken Open by my friend Mal Duane is about finding wholeness, forgiveness, and unconditional love for yourself and others after experiencing the deep wounds of betrayal. The book includes the powerful self-inquiry questions and spiritual practices that helped Mal heal her own broken heart, and shares her life story with authenticity courage, and vulnerability. A powerful and inspiring book for anyone who has experienced a broken heart.

Upcoming Events

Upcoming Events

Transforming Toxic Emotions

9/28/19, 10am-11:30am - Are you often run by your feelings? In this powerful event, you'll learn about the origins of chronic, toxic emotions, and practical tools to stop their diminishing effect on your life. Whether your emotional “addiction” is to anger, depression, fear, insecurity, or some other emotional pattern, renowned coach and bestselling author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life, Lauren Mackler, will help you better understand the chronic emotions limiting your life, and how to transform them to ones that create a more joyful inner and outer environment. In Cambridge, MA.

Upcoming Events

Upcoming Events

Talking Smart: Keys to Clear and Compelling Communication

2/28/19, 6:30pm-8pm - Many of us struggle with communicating effectively with others—personally and professionally—because we never learned how. In this powerful evening, learn how to build rapport, gain mastery of your emotions, and be a clear and compelling communicator. Discover how to interact with others in ways that strengthen your relationships, invoke respect, defuse conflict, and produce the outcomes you want in your personal life and at work. In Arlington, MA.

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Interview: RealSimple Magazine

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Interview: RealSimple Magazine

How to Find More Time Alone—Without Feeling Lonely

If you’re one of the rare people who like spending time by themselves, enjoy this article as validation of your natural instincts. If, on the other hand, you’re among those who would rather endure physical pain than spend time alone with your thoughts (true story: in a 2014 study published in Science, many of the participants preferred to give themselves electric shocks rather than spend 6 to 15 minutes by themselves with nothing to do), we’d like to change your mind about solitude.

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