Lauren's Interview in Philadelphia Daily News

Read this article on Philadelphia Daily News. When not to go down the aisle By Jenice Armstrong

ELIZABETH and John Edwards are splitsville, while former aide Andrew Young and his wife are out promoting their new book about their dealings with the former presidential candidate.

Tiger Woods' wife, Elin Nordegren, may not be completely finished with her scandal-scarred marriage, despite all of Woods' philandering.

I tell myself not to feel silly way too much about this madness because there are things you can learn about life just by watching the foibles of the rich and famous.

Here's an example of a lesson snatched straight from the pages of Jenny Sanford's don't-let-this-happen-to-you handbook: When your instinct warns you that you're about to make a serious mistake in terms of your choice of a romantic partner, run. (It should be common sense, but judging from the divorce rate, it's not.)

The soon-to-be-ex-wife of South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford got an early warning of how rocky her marriage was going to be when her soon-to-be-hubby balked over promising to be faithful during his wedding vows. That should have been clue No. 1, and Jenny Sanford should have stopped him right in his cheater-cheater tracks. But apparently she'd gotten herself all wrapped up in a white-tulle fantasy of walking down the aisle and married him anyway, making a "leap of faith" as she called it.

"It bothered me to some extent, but . . . we were very young, we were in love. I questioned it, but I got past it . . . along with other doubts that I had," Sanford told Barbara Walters in a "20/20" interview that airs Friday.

As you can attest, if you've ever sat through a wedding ceremony skeptical of the couple's long-term prospects, Jenny Sanford's blinders-on, "maybe-he'll-change-after-we're-married" response is typical. Once some people are altar-bound, get in their way and they'll plow you over faster than you can say, "I'm only looking out for what's best for you."

"Very often, what people do is they tell themselves a story and they believe what they want to believe," pointed out Lauren Mackler, author of "Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life."

"They doubt themselves and then they start telling themselves, 'I'll change him.' Or they say, 'Once we're married, I'll have him. I've just got to get that ring on my finger... Click here to read the entire article.