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Solemate: 12-Session Teleseminar with Lauren Mackler

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Teleseminar with renowned coach & bestselling author Lauren Mackler! Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life 12-Session Teleseminar with Lauren Mackler January 14-December 9, 2010 Format: Live Teleseminar

Regular Price: $240 Discounted Price: $199 If you purchase the program after the January 14, 2010 start date, you will receive access to previous sessions, following the purchase of the complete program.

Monthly Giveaway: Your name will also be placed in the virtual hat for a chance to receive one of the monthly gifts being offered by Lauren during this year-long program.

Are you ready to join renowned coach and bestselling author Lauren Mackler to achieve greater self-mastery and well-being? To find out, notice how many “yes” answers you have to the following statements:

___ I want to make changes in my life, but I don’t know where to begin. ___ I’m unable to move beyond my fears to pursue the life I dream of. ___ I feel dissatisfied with myself and my life. ___ I have difficulty following through on the goals I set for myself. ___ I often say or do things to get others’ approval. ___ I tend to make others’ needs more important than my own. ___ I’m settling for less than my heart’s desire. ___ I often feel overwhelmed and stressed. ___ I worry that I won’t be able to provide for myself. ___ I withhold my thoughts and feelings to avoid being judged or rejected. ___ I often have trouble controlling my emotions.    ___ I often feel alone and unsupported in my life. ___ I always keep myself busy or with people to avoid being alone. ___ I usually avoid conflict and have difficulty expressing anger. ___ I’m constantly striving for perfection, but nothing ever feels good enough. ___ I tend to withdraw and isolate myself. ___ I believe that if I could just find my soul mate, I’d be happy and complete. ___ I’m in a relationship, but I still feel lonely. ___ I feel unclear about my own interests and passions.

If you checked one or more boxes, make 2010 the year you create a life you love!  

Mastering the art of aloneness means:

  • Loving, trusting, and accepting yourself.
  • Being able to care for yourself emotionally and financially.
  • Expressing your true feelings, thoughts, and needs with others.
  • Feeling like a powerful, worthy, and deserving person.
  • Treating yourself with compassion, love, and respect.
  • Feeling whole and happy on your own or in a relationship.
  • Sharing healthy and supportive relationships with others.
  • Pursuing and achieving your own dreams and goals.

Self-mastery requires commitment, support, and practice. During this 12-session event, Lauren helps you master the art of aloneness by giving you concrete tools and skills to practice each month. Based on her Solemate book, Lauren guides you through 12 life-changing sessions that provide a clear road map for living a joyful and fulfilling life.

All sessions are from 7pm-8:30pm Eastern Time, 4pm-5:30pm Pacific Time

January 14, Session 1: Embracing Your Aloneness Mastering the art of aloneness is about developing a strong, healthy relationship with yourself, and achieving wholeness and well-being on your own or in a relationship.

February 11, Session 2: Uncovering Your Conditioned Self Uncover the core limiting beliefs and habitual behaviors that keep you from living the life you want.

March 11 , Session 3: Managing Fear So It Doesn’t Manage You Discover the underlying roots of the fears that keep you stuck, and tools for overriding them.

April 8, Session 4: Living Deliberately Versus By Default Learn about the 3 levels of creation and how to align your thoughts and actions with the results you seek.  

May 13, Session 5: Reclaiming Your Innate Wholeness Take action to reclaim your innate wholeness and become the person you were born to be.

June 10, Session 6: Becoming the Partner You Seek Instead of expecting someone else to make you whole, become the partner you seek. 

July 8, Session 7: Creating Your Life Vision Create a life vision that inspires you, and keeps you focused on your goals and priorities.

August 12, Session 8: Building an Inner Support System Build a strong inner support system that generates optimal health, energy, and resiliency.

September 9, Session 9: Building an Outer Support System Build a strong outer support system that helps you achieve your life vision.  

October 14, Session 10: Bringing Your Vision to Life Develop a concrete action plan to bring your life vision to reality.

November 18,  Session 11: Sustaining Your Commitment Sustain your focus, commitment, and motivation to stay on-course and achieve your life vision.

December 9, Session 12: Your Mastering the Art of Aloneness Tool Kit Use the practical tools you’ve learned when old patterns are triggered, or you’re faced with a life crisis or challenge. 

Purchase the Teleseminar now and receive a discounted price of only $199!

Watch Lauren speak about her work.

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Lauren's Keynote at International Coach Federation - 11/9/09

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iStock_000005539091SmallWhat would you do if you knew you could not fail—if you were free from the fears, limiting beliefs, and habitual behaviors that keep you stuck? In this life-changing presentation, coach and bestselling author, Lauren Mackler, presents her groundbreaking Illumineering Coaching method that has helped thousands of people uncover the hidden drivers that keep them from living the lives to which they aspire. Topics include: How our life conditioning impacts our adult lives The core beliefs, roles, and habitual behaviors of the Conditioned Self How to reclaim our “lost parts” and innate wholeness The hidden drivers of fear and how to override them How to “live deliberately” and align our actions with our desired results 

To register for this event click here.

When: Monday, November 9, 2009   3:30 PM- 8:30 PM

Schedule of Events:

Registration: 5:30-6:00 PM Dinner and Announcements: 6:00-6:45 PM Lauren Mackler: 6:45-8:30 PM

ICF Approved CCEUs: 2.0 Credits Personal Development 1.0 Core Competencies 1.0

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Positive Action Produces Positive Thinking

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An old acquaintance of mine recently wrote an article about positive thinking—a subject that is often misunderstood. For many years I, like many people on the personal-development path, believed that by writing down and repeating positive affirmations (positive statements about yourself or your life, written in the present tense as if they were already true), I would think more positively and the changes I sought in myself and in my life would happen automatically. I hung them up all over my house, memorized them, and repeated them out loud, sometimes as much as a hundred times a day. But it seemed like no matter how many times I said them, the changes I hoped to achieve eluded me. It would be nearly twenty years before I finally realized that while affirmations were helpful in clarifying what I wanted, positive action was required to achieve it. Positive action generates positive thinking, not the other way around. Positive action is a choice, one that can be challenging, especially for people who’ve experienced much suffering and pain in their lives—but it’s still a choice. For example, maybe you feel lonely and sad, but instead of isolating yourself, you do something positive like attend a cooking class, volunteer at a soup kitchen, or go out for a run—something that refocuses your thoughts and produces a more positive experience than sitting home alone eating cookies and feeling sorry for yourself.

Chronic negative thinking and the emotions it invokes is, like many destructive behaviors, a form of addiction. People become addicted to habitual, “gloom and doom” thoughts, as well as to the emotions they produce like fear and anger. It becomes their comfort zone—not very pleasant, but familiar. To break this addiction, you have to first understand its roots (nearly always found in your life conditioning), and consciously change your behaviors and actions to ones that create more positive results. Over time, you’ll build a string of positive experiences that solidifies a new internal reference point, and makes a positive mindset your new habitual way of thinking.

Achieving Your New Year's Resolutions

At the New Year, many people make resolutions for change. In fact, many of their resolutions are the same ones year after year! Yours may be to increase your income, expand your circle of friends, or find a more exciting and fulfilling career. But the foundation of achieving any type of goal is the ability to activate your potential to create the results you seek. In my coaching practice, workshops, and trainings, I often refer to the life conditioning process, and the core beliefs and habitual behaviors we develop in response to the environment we grew up in. Although rooted in the unconscious and hidden from most people, our core beliefs drive our everyday behaviors. And while these beliefs and behaviors allowed us to adapt to and function within our families growing up, they often negate our adult lives. So identifying and shedding these core limiting beliefs and behaviors is a critical key to success.

To help you understand how your own core limiting beliefs and habitual behaviors may be sabotaging your success, I’m going to present three examples of self-defeating behavior patterns I often see in my coaching practice.

The first behavior pattern is avoidance.  If you grew up in a family in which you were often criticized, you might hold a core limiting belief of I’m not good enough. Your habitual behavior might be to keep quiet—staying under the radar screen to avoid being judged. While that behavior may have helped you avoid criticism growing up, it sabotages your success as an adult. You may avoid speaking up in meetings or asking for a raise. Or you might settle for a job beneath your abilities to avoid making mistakes and being judged.

The second pattern is controlling. Do you tend to be dominating and confrontational, getting angry when you don’t get your way? Controlling behavior is usually driven by the core limiting belief that I am powerless and have no control. You may have had a controlling parent, or experienced a difficult event beyond your control such as a disruptive parental divorce. This pattern is very destructive. Controllers can have difficulty holding jobs, get passed over for promotions, alienate people, and waste a lot of energy in conflict with others.

The third pattern is approval-seeking. Do you continually put other people’s needs before your own—never saying no for fear of others’ disapproval? If you grew up in a family in which you were loved or accepted only if you did what was expected—if love was conditional—you may hold the core belief that if I meet others’ needs I’ll be loved and accepted. Approval-seekers often experience work overload, and feel unappreciated by and resentful of others.

The first step in overcoming these hidden barriers to achieving your goals involves recognizing what they are. Without judging yourself, observe how you behave in your life. When you start to recognize your behavior patterns, dig down to identify the core beliefs that drive them. Once you’ve identified your self-defeating patterns, develop and start activating the new beliefs and behaviors that support you in achieving the goals to which you aspire.

If you’re ready to achieve your New Year’s resolutions visit www.laurenmackler.com to find out how Lauren’s life, career, and executive coaching programs, workshops, and trainings can help you bring your goals to reality!

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