Patti Scialfi, a recording artist in her own right, has been married to Bruce Springsteen since 1991. They have three children together. Some time ago, she was interviewed on the radio about her new CD, and my ears perked up when I heard what she had to say about her marriage. “You know, I was a child of the ’50s,” she told interviewer Liane Hansen of NPR. “There was the idea that love is a simplistic promise of completion . . . that you’re going to find the missing half, your lost twin, your soul mate. I don’t think that you can look for something external to really complete you that way.” She went on to say that her marriage had broadened her and given her a sense of fulfillment, but, she added, “You can’t really look for that. And if you’re looking for that, you’re going to be disappointed.”
Imagine your life if you could step out from behind your “mask” and fully become the person you were born to be. What if you could reclaim your magnificence, liberate your potential, and ignite that potential in every aspect of your life?
We’re all born with unique personalities, passions, gifts, and strengths that, as we grow up, are often diminished by fear, shame, anger, perfectionism, and other self-defeating patterns. These patterns shape our feelings about ourselves and the limiting roles we play to keep us feeling safe.
Despite two years of therapy and a high degree of professional success, a client came to me several years ago seeking help with a problem I’ve seen many times in my coaching practice. “Nate” was plagued by feelings of low self-esteem, unworthiness, and never being good enough. Although he hid it well, the energy it took to maintain the image of someone who had it all together was exhausting him. He was also afraid that others would see through his façade and find out that he was really a fraud. Not only was this causing him a lot of stress at work, his insecurities were having a negative impact on his marriage, as he was often withdrawn and distant with his spouse.
I’m excited to share that I’ve recently become a faculty member at Babson College, where I’ll be teaching a graduate course in leadership beginning in January.
Babson is a private college in Wellesley, Massachusetts, established in 1919. Its central focus on entrepreneurship education has made it the most prestigious entrepreneurship college in the United States.
In this life-changing workshop at Kripalu, coach, CNN commentator, bestselling author of Solemate and co-author of Speaking of Success with Stephen Covey and Jack Canfield, Lauren Mackler, presents her groundbreaking roadmap to achieve mastery of your life, and greater wholeness alone or in relationship.
Many people fail to achieve their goals because they never learned the skills that produce success. No one ever taught them how to set clear goals, create effective action plans, or sustain their motivation.
Whether you want to become a better leader, create a more fulfilling career, or bring greater balance into your life, there are three keys to achieving any type of goal: focus, strategy, and commitment.
Boston Workshop! Join Lauren for this new, 4-week life-changing journey to free yourself from the shackles of toxic emotional patterns. Whether your emotional “addiction” is to anger, depression, fear, resentment, anxiety, unworthiness, frustration, insecurity, jealousy, or some other emotion, you'll learn about the origins of these patterns, as well as practical tools to stop their diminishing effect on your day-to-day life.
9/10/16 SOLEMATE: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life - Cambridge, MA
Many people spend years waiting for a soul mate to make them complete. Others settle for unfulfilling relationships out of fear of being alone. Renowned coach and psychotherapist, CNN commentator, and international best-selling author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life, Lauren Mackler, discusses her groundbreaking roadmap to help you achieve mastery of your own life, and a greater sense of wholeness on your own or in a relationship. This event is also a great introduction for people interested in the upcoming November, 2016 Solemate weekend workshop at Kripalu in Lenox, MA.
Self-empowerment can defined in many different ways. I define it as knowing who you really are—your strengths and limitations, your interests and passions, and your goals and life purpose—and living a life that honors who you really are. This not only empowers you, but makes you a powerful force out in the world.
Many Americans can’t tell you the names of the people living across the street. Although keeping to yourself has become a popular trend, knowing your neighbors has many benefits. People are more likely to look out for each other, exchange occasional favors, and gain greater enjoyment from where they live.
Feeling stuck or unable to accomplish your goals? Change can be difficult, and many people lose motivation to achieve their goals. When you slip up, just think of it as course-correcting. Welcome the challenge—it means that you’re taking charge of your life. Don’t judge yourself. Instead, treat yourself with compassion, and determine what’s needed to get back on course.
What would you do if you were fearless? Fear is one of biggest barriers to creating a life aligned with who you really are and the vision to which you aspire. Lauren Mackler, a world-renowned coach and psychotherapist, CNN commentator, and best-selling author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life, will help you uncover the roots of the fears that keep you stuck and offer practical tools for overriding fear and bringing your dreams and goals to reality.
Below is a question a client recently asked me during a coaching session. Since so many people struggle with setting boundaries, I thought I'd share the question and my suggestions.
Q: I often find myself torn between wanting to be a supportive and good friend, parent, and co-worker by helping others with things that they need, and getting things done for which I'm responsible at home and at work. If I say no to someone in need I feel guilty, but saying yes all the time makes my life very stressful and exhausting. I also don't want to hurt people's feelings or have them think I'm unsupportive. How do I say no and maintain good relationships with people I care about?
A positive and mutually respectful relationship with your boss not only makes going to work more pleasant, it can have a significant impact on your job performance and career. But some managers make this very challenging. Many bosses have never learned effective managerial and leadership skills, so average to bad managers are more the norm than the exception.
Many years ago, I discovered that my then live-in boyfriend (a psychologist and beloved couple’s therapist) was cheating on me with a colleague he knew from work. The affair had begun while my mother was dying, and I accidentally found out about it a month after she passed away. My initial reactions were disbelief and shock, followed by excruciating pain, then morphing into a seething rage from which I didn’t emerge for the next three years.
Lauren Mackler, a world-renowned coach and psychotherapist, CNN commentator, and best-selling author of Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life, will help you uncover the roots of the fears that keep you stuck, and offer practical tools for overriding fear and bringing your dreams and goals to reality.